Many of these cyclical relationships hurt us the most because we never envisioned an end. Some of us are still harboring resentment and anger from things that happened, although we’re claiming that we have moved on. But were these cyclical people really your downfall or was it the fact that you didn’t allow enough time for them to prove the type of person they were? Let me explain:
“You cannot conceive, grow and birth of baby all in the same night. A healthy baby is birthed after a 9-month process, otherwise you will have a premature birth!”

Do you know the potential dangers caused by a premature birth? There are endless long term effects when a baby does not have enough time for proper development. Our relationships and life situations are the same. If we move too quickly in any season, and with any person, the potential synergy comes into question. Being too easily swayed or lured in by what ignites our senses, appeals to our desires (good or bad) and then latching on with all our might is the breeding ground for pain. From that point on, we see nothing but signs that confirm our desires and expectations because that is what we want to see. (Who wants to be wrong?)
This is a wonderful strategy if the person fulfills our expectations. But when he or she misses the mark, feelings of anger, hurt and betrayal set in and we blame him or her. But whose fault is it really?
In this new year, whether in business or personal relationships, give yourself the gift of peace. Open your heart and mind to endless possibilities, while giving the other party time to prove who and what they are. He or she has expectations and needs as well. Relationships are BUILT & ESTABLISHED which is not an overnight process.
“You cannot conceive, grow and birth of baby all in the same night. A healthy baby is birthed after a 9-month process, otherwise you will have a premature birth!”
Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
Publisher|Best Selling Author|Transformational Speaker
CEO, Alesha Brown LLC