How to Use Loyalty as a Strength, Not a Weakness

I used to blame myself for being “loyal to a fault,” but now I realize it is my superpower. How sad it is that we live in a world where this is even a cliche. 

Loyalty, like love, is something so pure, delicate, and precious. Loyalty denotes faithfulness and commitment. How can you take something so inherently pure and sacred and defile it with the idea of being “loyal to a fault?”

Well, like all things pure, delicate, and precious in nature, loyalty can easily be defiled, manipulated, and misused. And in a paranoid, corrupt, and distrusting beholder, things of a vulnerable nature are often categorized as weak. I give you an opposing thought:

The concept of being “loyal to a fault,” personally, is a character strength not a weakness. It takes courage and integrity to stay true to your values, and having the fortitude in today’s world to embody unwavering commitment should be applauded. If this is who you think you are, you should be cheering and clapping for yourself if no one around you will.

No, my friend, you should not be ridiculed, laughed at, or shamed for your undivided loyalty, but you should do the five following things to protect yourself from being misused or hurt while you exercise this superpower:

  1. Set clear boundaries: Be clear about your expectations and limits with the people you are loyal to. Let them know what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do.
  2. Don’t ignore red flags: If you notice something that does not sit right with you, don’t ignore it. Trust your gut and investigate further.
  3. Communicate openly: Be honest and transparent with the people you are loyal to. If you have concerns or issues, address them directly, respectfully, of course.
  4. Choose your circle wisely: Surround yourself with people who share your values and are worthy of your loyalty. Avoid those who have a history of taking advantage of others. Continually evaluate your circle, and know when to change it.
  5. Take care of yourself: Remember that you cannot be loyal to others if you are not taking care of yourself. Prioritize your own needs and well-being, and do not sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of loyalty. Be loyal to yourself second, God first, and then everyone else. 

By following these tips, you can proudly be extremely loyal while protecting yourself from getting hurt or misused. Loyalty should never come at the cost of your own well-being.


Alesha Brown, CEO, Fruition Publishing Concierge Services®

Editor-in-Chief, Published! Magazine

Award-Winning Entrepreneur|Publisher|Transformational Speaker

Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru

Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru, is the CEO of Fruition Publishing Concierge Services, where she offers author consultation, writing coaching and publishing services to help people share their story with the masses. As a childhood abuse survivor, she is on a mission to reverse the damage of abuse by encouraging survivors to write and publish their stories in order to pay it forward and create a circle of healing. Alesha is an Award-Winning Entrepreneur, Authors Consultant, and Transformational Speaker who encourages audiences by igniting the fire within and helping them take center stage. With comprehensive, simple techniques and words of inspiration, Alesha helps the old and young alike, grab ahold of their dreams while identifying the roots of their unhappiness and those things that hold them back. A humorist and gifted speaker, Alesha Brown delivers entertaining, engaging presentations with thought-provoking exercises and vivid illustrations to connect with an audience.

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