st SellingCall it telepathy or understanding people but I felt a “tell us more” in your spirit when it comes to today’s motivational picture post. Well, I am all too willing to oblige :o)!
This concept is the same as being right vs. righteous; if you understand that paradigm then you understand why life is too short to exhaust your time proving you are RIGHT. Consider this: great wars have been started, promising relationships and marriages ruined and great torment and pain inflicted from the quest to prove who’s right. Truthfully, when you meet someone hell-bent on proving that he or she is right (and you are wrong), at least one of the following scenarios is at play:
- He or she is immature
- He or she is insecure
- In that moment, space or situation, the person feels hopeless
- At some point in life, the person was made to feel insignificant, powerless or defeated and is determined to never be in that position again
- The person does not know his or her true power, worth or authority and feels compelled to fight for it (even if it is against you)
- The battle is not with you; it is an internal struggle
Do we all feel insecure or powerless at times? Sure we do and that reality is nothing to be ashamed of. Will there be times, spaces and situations that upset us and make us feel hopeless? Yes. The difference, however, is whether we have a mindset to keep pressing forward and create a plan of action for success versus playing the “blame game”.
My ability to extend mercy and grace was birthed by the hatred, malicious and mean-spirited actions of others. Surviving childhood abuse were lessons in power and strength: when no appear to come to your rescue God will and that’s more than enough. (Honestly, that is the main power source you need anyway and the foundation on which everything must be built upon.) People come and go and you must know how to embrace that fact instead of being bitter over it.
Trust me on this one, it is a blessing when people say no or vindictively taunt and attack you, your brand or business. While it may not be a welcomed invitation, their actions are priceless gifts of clarity; you cannot take everyone with you for the next phases of your dreams, vision and life’s work. Everything that has been predestined for your life is impacted by those connected to you; manipulators, distractors, naysayers and leeches cannot have center stage and promotion.
Bonus “joy” tip: please don’t waste time trying to “show them” or take the “they’ll be sorry one day” stance. Your time is best spent building your future, walking into your destiny and making an impact while preparing for next dimensional living. After all, if you allow the “I’ll-show-them” spirit to reign, you might end up with nothing to show at all!
–Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker and Best Selling Author
CEO, Alesha Brown LLC
