I guess this message could apply to some males, but I’m speaking directly to my sisters. Women, for the love of God, please STOP Apologizing!
I’m not addressing the simple overuse of the phrase, I’m sorry, but the mentality that goes with it. In my professional and personal relationships, I often hear the following statements:
- “I don’t mean to be mean, but… “
- “I’m sorry, but I have tried over and over again to work with them and…”
- “I mean this in the nicest way possible, but…”
Where this is problematic and irks me the most, is when it concerns one’s professional and business choices. I don’t mean to be mean, but… There is no but. Your words have power. If you make a conscious decision to utter the words, say them and be convicted in what you say. Yes, do not be reckless with your words and be mindful of what you say, but either say it or refrain.
I’m sorry, but I have tried over and over again to work with them. “I’m sorry” is not necessary. Whatever the conclusion is, it is what it is. We all have gone into certain relationships hoping for one thing and ending up with a different result. When that happens, you come to a point of resolution or conclusion. Do what needs to be done and stand firm in it.
I mean this in the nicest way possible. No, you don’t or, at least, niceness is not the focal point of what you’re saying. The words that follow have a certain level of importance, seriousness and desired action, which is why you’re uttering them. Stop cheapening, diluting or devaluing them before you utter them.
Takeaway: Either speak or be quiet. If you’re not confident enough in saying “what needs to be said”, don’t say it and save yourself indigestion or the weak stance. You’re welcomed.
Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
Publisher|Best Selling Author|Transformational Speaker
CEO, Alesha Brown LLC