Bless & Release is one of my favorite sayings from one of my business coaches & influencers, Millionaire Sandra Yancey of eWomenNetwork, and she’s dead on!
Many of us waste too much energy in the negative sayings, actions and assumed thoughts of our haters. We keep expecting people to act, think and reciprocate our actions, thoughts and intents. Well, in an ideal world that might be the case, but we DON’T LIVE in an IDEAL world. Reality check time!
1. So what?
2. Are you God now?
3. So what?
No, I didn’t put the same thing twice by accident. Follow me−there’s always a method to my madness.
So what? Honestly, so what? Even if the person is being mean, bitter and nasty, so what? This isn’t time for the woe-is-me or after-all-I’ve-done-for-them pity party. His or her actions are sending a message and you need to put your energy into deciphering what that is and your response.
What does it matter to you? Where there signs that whatever happened would occur (whatever you are in an uproar about) and what are the implications to you? Are you overreacting?
Which brings me to point #2: Are you God now? So often we assume when someone does something we don’t like it automatically means . Many of us create a soap opera with full dialogue, expressions, wardrobe and multiple endings. Are you God and able to read a person’s mind and heart? I didn’t think so!
This is the power of bias, preconceived notions and a skewed sense of reality. Ever hear the cliché You’ll find what you’re looking for? If you think your lover is cheating, you will find all the signs to prove you’re right, even if you are wrong. When you are the writer and hold the pen, you can fabricate any story you want and actually write the desired ending. Caution: what you think you see may not be true. So save the drama for reality TV and channel it into So what?
And here we are: So what? When you clearly look at the situation, now you need to answer the second So what? So what now? Now that you have done your level best to figure out what happened and why, while removing your bias and emotions as much as possible, so what is your next course of action? In the grand scheme of things, in the culmination of actions and words, what is the appropriate response? What is the course of action you should take? How do you recover or shift?
The truth is your gut/spirit/instinct/or whatever you want to call it has already confirmed what you know. Did you fall for the smoke screen and mirrors again? Why did you expect them to be any different from before?
Now if you want to devote an extravagant amount of time in any ONE area, start here. Often times you will find at least partial liability in your lack of respect, love and sense of value in yourself. If you don’t see yourself as important, highly valuable, deserving of love & respect and to be highly treasured, don’t be surprised when others don’t either. (Bring on the users and manipulators!)
While I’m not saying that people don’t deserve second chances or the chance to redeem themselves, I am saying that history does repeat itself. That is why financial institutions look at your credit history before deciding if and for what amount they will extend credit for. You can have a sob story, convincing words and cheery message all you want to, but statistically, if you have a history of not paying your bills on time or at all, the same will be true if you are extended credit again. Even if you have the best intentions and are hopeful, you financially may not be in the position for what you ask or think you need. Just as it’s true in this scenario, it’s true with people’s actions, thoughts and words. We are creatures of habit.Bonus: It just might be your habits that make it uncomfortable for you to Bless and Release. With maturity, you should always be able to Bless and Release. I never said it was easy, but often we are so attached to a person, place and thing that we refuse to let go when it’s time. Expired foods can kill you and so can certain people, places and things. You will find no peace, until you learn to Bless & Release.
Alesha Brown, The Joy Guru
Publisher|Best Selling Author|Transformational Speaker
CEO, Alesha Brown LLC